There was this guy, Aaron, an entrepreneur who had everything you’d think someone could want:
Success
Admiration
Wealth
But one evening he found an old envelope in his desk drawer, and his name was spelled out across the front.
Curious, and possibly a little nervous, he opened it.
Inside was a letter he had written to himself ten years prior, full of promises and dreams—the kind of writing that makes you feel invincible when you pen them down.
But now? All Aaron could see were the dreams he’d abandoned.
It felt like a gut punch: suddenly all those years of success had hollowed it out for him because he felt that deep down he’d sold out part of himself to achieve where he was.
Aaron didn’t tell anyone. Not his family, friends, or even the people who idolized him.
Can’t be the only person that ever had to experience that. Maybe you’ve too.
1. The Feeling of Not Being “Good Enough” for Their Loved Ones
Do you know somebody whom you love and think perhaps I’m not doing enough for them?
I think about this all the time:
With my parents
Even my closest friends
It’s like this invisible weight that’s always there, whispering that no matter what you do, it’s not enough.
You try to do better and come more and give more, but then the guilt is there, anyway.
“What’s actually going on here is this: The guilt doesn’t come from them. It comes from you.”
This guilt is heavy, and talking about it makes one feel like admitting he’s weak. But it’s there, isn’t it?
That fear of never being enough.
2. The Dreams They Have Grown to Abandon
Let’s go back to Aaron for a moment.
That letter he discovered? That wasn’t words on paper. That was a flashlight on dreams that had been put to sleep silently.
I’ve had my own “Aaron moments.” Dreams I’ve let go of because:
Life just got up to speed
I thought they were impossible
Society Standards
I used to imagine:
Writing a book
Travel Around the world
Starting a non-profit
At some point, they had come to stand for an unattainable luxury.
“Dream big,” we say; never telling someone about all the grief and frustration that sets in when you’re done dreaming about anything and everyone.
It’s like you’re confessing defeat by speaking of them. So you bury them,
but they never really go away.
“They sit there, silently haunting you.”
3. How They Really Feel About the People Closest to Them
We’re supposed to love our family, our friends, our partners.
But what about those moments when you don’t?
When resentment creeps in because they didn’t come out the way you needed them to?
When their actions cut deeper than they think?
I have had days when I looked at the people whom I love and thought, Why can’t you people understand me better? why do i always have to spend more energy around them?
But to say it out loud feels dangerous, like you’re betraying them. So instead, you keep quiet.
Loving someone doesn’t mean you’re immune to frustration, disappointment, or even anger.
But to utter them? Ghastly. No one would like to endanger his or her most cherished relationships.
4. How Often They Second-Guess Their Choices
Let me be honest with you, I second-guess myself most of the time.
From what I said over a conversation to major life decisions including career moves.
And each time that inner voice asks:
Did I call the right way?
It’s exhausting, And people assume that being super-conscious means they have it all together.
But in reality, you’re constantly overthinking everything.
Make an effort to pick the “perfect” choice, which you know doesn’t even exist.
This was an ordeal in being shared. For who wants to admit they cannot make any meaning out of their own lives?
5. When They Considered Themselves Utterly Worthless
This is the hardest one to admit, even to yourself. But we’ve all been there.
Moments when you feel nothing you do will make a difference.
Like you’re just existing
Going through the life on autopilot.
And no one would miss you if you disappeared
I have felt this: sitting alone, staring at the ceiling, wondering, What’s the point?
It’s not something you share because you are afraid of how people will react.
Will they judge you?
Will they try to fix you?
Sometimes, it’s best kept inside a locker.
But feeling worthless doesn’t mean you are.
“It just means you’re human.”
6. Jealous of Their Friends for Succeeding
No one likes to say it.
You watch as your friend thrives.
Landed a promotion
Beginning a family
Buying their dream house
And while you’re genuinely happy for them, there’s that pang of jealousy.
It doesn’t mean you don’t love them.
Not at all to be proud of them.
But it does mean you’re human.
Here’s the part that no one wants to say:
You can feel jealous and happy of a person at once. That is fine.
Hiding these truths doesn’t make them disappear. It only makes them heavier.
But to share them? This is scary, Plus, people haven’t been in a place yet.
But if you’ve made it this far, maybe you’re ready to take a closer look at the things you’ve been hiding:
From others
And from you
Because of those hidden truths? They often hold the answers you’ve been searching for.
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