7 Psychological Tricks to Make Yourself Happier - You Won't Believe Which One Actually Works Best
That Actually Work
Here are seven raw, psychological tricks you can use
No fluff. Just real tools to solve your problems.
Life doesn’t always play nice.
You’ve had days where everything feels wrong — your job sucks, your relationships are shaky, and happiness feels like it’s reserved for someone else.
But here’s what people don’t tell you: Happiness is a practice, something you can create every day.
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1. Own Your Bad Decisions (Stop the Blame Game)
Here’s what’s actually going on: We love to blame our unhappiness on everything else. Our job, our parents, the world being unfair.
But, You are at the center of most of your own messes. (most of the cases)
And that stings. Blame keeps you comfortable in your own misery
because you don’t have to change anything if you're not responsible.
What To DO: Practice radical accountability.
Every time you’re about to complain, pause.
Ask yourself, “How did I contribute to this?”
When you own it, you can fix it.
2. Stop Chasing Passion (And Accept Boring Consistency)
Here’s the part no one talks about: Passion is overrated.
Consistency beats passion every time.
We’ve been fed this lie that you need to “find your passion” to be happy.
But?
Passion is fickle. It’s here today, gone tomorrow.
Then? boring consistency.
What To DO: Commit to showing up, even when it sucks.
Happiness isn’t in adrenaline-filled moments of joy. It’s in doing the work, even when you don’t feel like it.
3. Face the Hard Conversations (No More People-Pleasing)
Most people want to believe that avoiding confrontation keeps the peace. It doesn’t.
Most unhappiness comes from staying silent — from all the things you leave unsaid to keep others comfortable.
Here’s what matters most: Avoiding those tough conversations doesn’t protect you from pain. It just makes the pain chronic.
You’ve probably felt that gnawing bitterness before. The weight of things you wanted to say but swallowed down. (I know how that feels as an introvert)
What To DO: Say what needs to be said.
Even if it’s uncomfortable.
Even if it’s messy.
4. Make Useful Delusions (Lie to Yourself in the Right Way)
You’re not going to believe this, but — sometimes, lying to yourself can be a good thing.
We’ve been taught to be “realistic.” But being realistic often becomes a cage that keeps you small.
What To DO: Tell yourself you’re capable, even when you don’t believe it.
Confidence follows action, not the other way around.
Take action, and your mind will catch up.
Confidence; it’s something you create. The right lies push you into action.
5. Quit Trying to Be Liked (Acceptance Is Overrated)
You might not like hearing this, not everyone will like you. And that’s okay.
The people-pleasing game is exhausting, and it doesn’t even work. You end up drained, unfulfilled, and still can’t make everyone happy.
What To DO: Focus on respect, not likability.
Draw boundaries. Say “no” when you need to.
People might not always like you, but they will respect you when you value yourself.
6. Do Things Badly (Perfectionism Is a Slow Death)
Stop aiming for perfection.
Perfectionism kills joy. It’s paralyzing. It keeps you from starting and stops you from finishing anything.
Think about it — how many times have you put something off just because you were afraid it wouldn’t be perfect?
What To DO: Aim to do things badly.
Give yourself permission to be mediocre.
Just start. you just have to move forward.
Progress, even messy progress, brings happiness. At least in my case.
7. Find the Right Kind of Discomfort
Here’s what matters most: You won't Find Happiness in comfort. It’s in growth. You will get bored and lose your mind when you are comforted.
The more you hide from discomfort, the smaller your world becomes.
Comfort zones are prisons, disguised as safety.
What To DO: Go for the right kind of discomfort.
Do the scary things. The ones that push you, challenge you.
Maybe it’s speaking up, trying something new.
In my opinion, happiness is created through discomfort, through making mistakes, and through showing up when it’s easier not to. It’s in owning your choices, even the bad ones. In pushing boundaries, in accepting who you really are.
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